First impressions are lasting and we judge, boy to we judge. In about 30 seconds or less we decide if you are fascinating, worth paying attention to or someone to avoid all together. And most women make snap judgments within nano-seconds (in 100 milliseconds, according to one Princeton study). So how do you make a great impression when meeting new business contacts ?
Here’s 3 Ways to Make a Killer First Impression
- Set an intention.
Often we go into networking or new situations without creating what we want out of it or the way we want to be. Beingness is everything it’s your energy signature it’s what people are attracted to. As you are getting ready or driving over to an event, create the outcome. “I am going to meet the most amazing people” or “I don’t know why I am going to this but I am suppose to meet someone special” “I am going to be open, caring and generously listening”. This is incredible grounding and gives you a feeling of relaxed confidence as well as a focus of what kind of energy you want to be giving off.
- Let them talk first.
You want the person you are meeting to trust you, right? Then don’t start in chatting away about yourself and your expertise or accomplishments. Ironically the best way to win people’s confidence is to ask them questions about themselves and let them talk first. Warmth is really about making the other person feel understood and what better way to do this than to listen. Just asking simple questions like “What brought you here today?” just keep it super simple.
- Reveal your flaws.
You’d think that with first impression its better to be as polished and perfect as possible, but experts actually disagree. They say showing your vulnerabilities and weaknesses are actually both endearing and empowering. Most people will respond in kind when you show up raw, vulnerable and honest. Ultimately you will most likely have an amazing connected conversation that otherwise would have never been possible.
I’d love to know what you think you do to make a killer presentation whether it’s on your website or in person…leave a comment and let me know!